Andre

[Andre]

Hello everyone;

I don’t make an appearance often but I do read what the good people of BLO write and it is always insightful and human. It is always refreshing to come in here and read the various thoughts about this and that.

There are a few things I would like to get off my chest and it’s various, so I put it into a topic of my own.

One, I know A to Z pretty well and I appreciate her thoughts about whatever she feels is necessary to talk about. She has been my background support throughout the last two and she has been nothing but kind to me. I wanted to say to her that I appreciate it and love her for it. The one who thinks he can destroy people by a mere quote or link, has not seen what this site can do nor know that I do not appreciate the bashing. It has been said on XXYTalk that I jump in when I feel someone is being down trodden and Yes, perhaps this is a fault as I know A to Z can handle herself quite well. I just can’t stand seeing friends being verbally beaten in hands of a troll. It’s just against my grain.

Two, I came on this board a while ago when I was in the throes of accepting Intersex on a conscious level. At that time, some of you have taken me under their wing (of sorts) and have encouraged me to find myself. I wanted to thank you all for that. In the meantime I had started my own board up as a compliment to whatever Intersex boards that are out there. I continue to do so and although I may not understand everything that is being said here, I use this board as an education. There is nothing better than hearing first hand what people go through and the compassion of others as they try to give insights on how to deal with personal issues.

Three, I would like to welcome Graeme and Duckslammer to BLO, they are my xxy buds. Thank you Canice for referring them here, they will get the best education there is out there. It is boards like this one that lend to a better understanding of issues not normally talked about in every day life.

My life has taken a positive turn in the last few years and I try not to trash anyone for any reason for in doing so, I trash myself or bring myself down to an uncomfortable level. I will make exceptions when I see the ramblings of those who have no other interest than to self promote by stepping on others. This kind of thing beats down on people that had a hard time stepping up and continue to do so through their own will power. Respect and encouragement must be given to those who stand up for themselves and promote good will to others of either the same or of a similar situation.

I tried very hard to keep this post upbeat, I hope I have succeeded in doing so.

Kind regards to all who know me and to those I have yet to know.

Andre

[Dianne]

:applaudth

[prince....ss?]

Thanks Andre

Nice to see you again and you do so much better than I at keeping things nice.

I appreciate your standing up for what's right. We all need help standing up against bullies.

I've got your back friend!

[Kailana]

my apologies too, I don't spend much time at gendersinx.org the sights informative but i tend to spend too much time here to really spend time elsewhere or playing online games haha. Keep GIX running though its good to read other peoples thoughts too. Not everyone likes BLO's openness, although I tend to think BLO is better at allowing people to bounce ideas off of each other and shows more dedicated interest in what others want to know, share.

Sometimes I am not all that understanding of why some comments/ threads keep running on for so long. It is kinda anoying when the original topic goes off track and becomes something else.

[Andre]

my apologies too, I don't spend much time at gendersinx.org

No apologies necessary, Kailana. We are all busy with our own thing, as long as we don't forget each other, that would be a tragedy. When push comes to shove, we are always there for one another.

Andre

[Anis789]

Hiya Andre

Question: I'd like to join gendersink.org but am concerned that my emtion get the better of me at times, i am starting to feel comfortable posting on BLO, i first came to BLO when i was angry n bitter about my first real rejection by 'normal-ies' an expression of positvie-discrmination no offence to non-intersex or non-disbled folk as i consider myself disabled not by my visual impairment but by socities ignorance.

I am Anis I am 21 from the UK think I am PAIS and realy am starting to feel at home here.

Please anyone do let me know how i would fair on the site mentioned i'd like to join but am reluctant to do so

Ais x

[roguekiwixxy]

Hello Andre,

When I see you mention my name it's almost like being mentioned in despatches from the front line. You know I do have a few things to offer BLO myself. I don't think this is going to be a one way street when it comes to learning. But thank you for you introduction and welcome, it's very good of you.

[Anis789]

I took the plunge and joined the site mentioned, yeah just waiting to have my account activated, excited about meetting new people wish i was exicted in meeting people in person but i hesitate with others in the real world. All yous on BLO n hopefully other intersex sites i can join are like my VI mates i feel close to yous all even though i know you through a computer screen, your like family a home, sorry to get all mushy but BLO is whats holding me up right about now even though i feel life is in the crapper for me

hugs n kisses Anis

[Andre]

Anis;

I know the feeling when you feel at home in a certain place. Venturing out is a bit scary because you don't know if you will be getting a good reaction from others.

I felt like that when I ventured out from XXYtalk and came here. I didn't even know what Intersex meant at that time or better yet, what it meant to me. It was a little unsettling I must admit, I still was struggling with anger issues and was concerned that I would flame members here. That didn't happen

Let me tell you a story about venturing out, I tell this one to young people who are moving out for the first or second time.

A couple went to a new town in the view of moving there but they were unsure of the neighbors there. They saw an old timer playing checkers and decided to ask him on how this town is. The old man told then that he knew this town pretty well but he asked one question ;"How were the neighbors where you come from ?" They answered with :"Where we come from, the neighbors were unfriendly and mean. This is one of the reasons we are moving out." The Old man replied "This town is pretty much the same, you wouldn't want to live here." The couple left.

Days later another couple were prospecting the town and came across the old timer. In very much the same manner, the young couple asked how this town was. The old timer having affirmed that he had been living here all his life, asked :"What was it like in your old town ?" The young couple answered : "Oh, we had wonderful neighbors, we knew eachother very well and supported eachother in anyway we could. I miss them already, if it wasn't for my husband's transfer, we would still be there."

To that the old timer said : "This town is very much like that, welcome."



Anis, welcome to our town.

[Anis789]

Thanks Andre

Your story is simple yet true n inspiring, I look forward to being apart of Gendersinx but love BLO a great deal! I came here very angry n was well supported my very first thread got many replies and now that i am not as angry anymore others share n interact with me n in return interact with them, i set up a young persons thread in spite i must admit but i do feel young intersexs may feel somewhat intimidated by adult intersexuals who seem to be more knowledegable but then again i/we must remember many are unaware of intersex regardless of age.

I am beining to learn what is meant by a troll i must say i am a vunreable n gulable guy so i must tred carefully - otherwise i could get real upset n hurt again n again

Your story to me supports me in the sense if i go in think negative things will happen then they might so where ever i go in life i will try to be postive n not fear what others think or say about me, cheers, Anis x

[peaceandparty]

i think its accurate to say that many of the most volatile people in the world are also huge carers!

like myself and others i see in this thread,,
we have had to deal with our inner anger and our processed anger
and because anger has gotten the best of us sometimes we can easier accept others flaring because we know how easy it is for someone to let anger take over!

being intersexed is a gift
finding out about the word intersex was a blessing for me
and a struggle of acceptance for otghers

i think a lot of people join places like blo because they feel safe--r here than in "normal" society!
yet....we are all just people ...sometimes on the same road
and its really important to truly trust in life
and to allow and support others for being their true selves on online forum groups!

not enough is really being discussed online
anger and some people ego destroy what could be a great online community

its not good enough that we have our own views...we must also speak for the silent or silenced!

we must truly feel together,in the dark sometimes,
we must feel safe together

and we must go on together through life regardless of the differences!

all for one and one for all
peace be with you always
we are one but we are definetely not the same

[roguekiwixxy]

i think a lot of people join places like blo because they feel safe--r here


Hello Gavan,

Did you know this BLO forum is indexed through Google? So everything here can be read by anybody on the Internet, not exactly "safe" is it now. :smile:

[peaceandparty]

hi graeme!

didnt ever get to that other place you mentioned

i am only on here to find out what happened to nicks account!

but since being back today i realise that there is some good talk ben done here!

hope things are ok with you
you said that one of your youtube accounts was closed down but i have been to both of thema nd they are both still functioning
its terrible when we get banned isnt it!?
i dont agree with banning

safety is within numbers
and i believe in openness
i think being open about yourself in areas such as intersex issues not only helps free our own minds from societies boxes but it also helps countless others who read our thoughts
and that means ...everyones thoughts need airing and listening to and arguing with!

please be the first to tell me or do a video on what has happened here recently with you and duckslammer and nick!
its obvious that something has gone on and gone wrong!

use me as the referee...because i think that is what is needed always in this game of life!!
lol

safety is the best when you can easily say that you trust in life

BLO has always been a very open community
and i would like it to stay that way
we,at BLO,pride ourselves in accepting the diversities of other individuals,similar to ourselves!
and when no similarities are found and we find it easier to combat certain truths with shunning them away,then the essence of the true spirit of BLO shall be lost or degraded!

lets upgrade here on BLO
and i encourgage arguements
but lets not let one think that they are the only one with an opinion
on this touchy subject of intersexed issues/trans issues/people issues/gender identity issues/hormonal issues/fitting in issues/

you know what i mean there!?

please inform me in video or else in boring/painstakingly written blog here of what has happened-in your opinion-in regard to the supposed banning of nick-kamodoodragon

[roguekiwixxy]

hi graeme!

didnt ever get to that other place you mentioned



Then the smart thing to do would have been to have contacted me privately before you posted here.

Nicky was booted because he argued, well tried to argue, that transgendered people have no rights, human beings have no rights if they're transgendered according to Nicky, did anyone tell you that before you posted? And if someone did why didn't you take notice of it?

[peaceandparty]

whoah horsey whoah!

honestly graeme look around yourself at my other posts

or better still dont be going around constantly looking for arguements
always needing the last word

hey...i do what i want...generally always
but i do it in a much more polite manner!

you are very presumptious!

please show a side of yourself that i can like....because you come across as very pretentious and angry....you seem to like bickering!

i have many posts throughout the internet
look around!

here lets have a beer and chillout!
:beer: