Not quire right, but trying! <3

[freakishfeline]

Erm. My name's Chris. I am not an intersexed individual, and was in fact born female, but identify as undifferentiated. I'm sure I'm off to a terribly rocky start here, what with my horrible first post in the surgery forum, but I'm hoping I can make up some of my credibility by saying hi. I'm at a delicate point in my life where I'm coning to terms with a non-binary gender identity, while my wonderful other half has begun taking his very first baby steps towards FtM transitioning. I've just turned 19--today, actually--and have only just begun to really emerge in the whole...LGBTQI...community so I'm bound to make a lot of mistakes and faux paus, and I'm sure I'll unintentionally insult or offend someone, but I genuinely mean no harm. I'm just a little scared and confused right now, which always leaves me with a bad case of verbal diarrhea.

[Dianne]

Happy birthday! :wave1:

[Aseras]

Hi Chris,

Happy birthday.

It takes a lot of courage to discover who you are and seek it out. It's good you are figuring it out as young as you are, many people stay scared for a very long time before they get around to it. Discovering your true self is one of the greatest things you will ever experience, so few people know who they really are. Everyone has to learn and everyone makes mistakes.

Best wishes to you and good luck.

[freakishfeline]

Ahaha, thanks. I've officially gotten more birthday wishes here than from my friends and family, so either you're awfully nice people or my fam is full of bums. :P

Honestly, Aseras, I probably wouldn't have taken it upon myself to really evaluate and discover myself it were not for my partner. Supporting him has been in and of itself a support for me, and one I've been lacking since I live in a small town in the bible belt, where issues like mine, his, and y'alls, and, well, essentially anyone's who isn't considered 'normal', is swept under the table, and not discussed.

I'm glad I haven't yet me tied to the stake and burned, so to speak. I was expecting to be flogged for being, I suppose, an outsider. :P My doctor says this is because I' got ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) in my pants. :P

[Dianne]

...My doctor says this is because I' got ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) in my pants

:biggrin: Good one!

I grew up in a small rural town, something left over from the 1880's, so I know how you feel. For many years I felt that I skated on the thin edge of being committed to an institution because I simply could not/would not accept the role that had been assigned to me. Having escaped that role, I am happy and boringly normal LOL!

[Aseras]

Everyone finds thier motivation a bit differently and everyone has thier breaking point where they just cant keep thier true selves and their feelings bottled up anymore. If you don't pay attention to it, it will consume you.

I grew up in sleepy eastern TN. I have a HUGE family. I know all about being an outsider and keeping things under rugs, and the gossip and talking behind each others back that occurs when it does get aired out. You deal with it and just be yourself and let them sort it out on their own time.

The idea really is to be happy and make it to being and feeling boringly normal.

[JOS]

Happy Birthday freakishfeline

:birthday:

[freakishfeline]

I'm surprised at how many southerners are here. I'm from a little town in the middle of nowhere in Texas; we're pretty backwater and highly conservative. I feel so out of place most of the time, but I grin and bear it.

[Kailana]

I'm surprised at how many southerners are here. I'm from a little town in the middle of nowhere in Texas; we're pretty backwater and highly conservative. I feel so out of place most of the time, but I grin and bear it.

there is something in the water. lol