Am I stupid?

[Olim]

Sometimes I feel very stupid. I don't know, how to express it. I don't know if i ask wrong questions or say something wrong in groups? I feel it more and more, now i am very afraid of saying anything, cos I don't want to look like an idiot.
Can it be cos of hormones? Actually, i have been around the program, where transsexuals are majority in there. I feel something like a huge wall between what i and they want to talk about. I don't know how to deal in this situation. I passed interviews etc. just to get into the program, sometimes i think it is bad that i hold a seat for one person who is more or less would be into the topics discussed at the program. From the other point, what I was expected and what I got was not the expectation.
But other than that, sometimes i feel stupid just for nothing and i am depressed of that too. again can it be cos of testosterone ?

Have you ever had feeling like that?

[spacegirl]

Sometimes I feel very stupid. I don't know, how to express it. I don't know if i ask wrong questions or say something wrong in groups? I feel it more and more, now i am very afraid of saying anything, cos I don't want to look like an idiot.

I don't think you are stupid. Real idiots never notice how stupid they are. It sounds to me like you are just humbled by how overwhelming the world can be. Maybe it would be better if more people were humbled? Practicing to develop a little bit of self-assurance and social ease might help you feel better about that. Men can often be more socially shy than women are, and then they hide their shyness and fear of rejection behind a socially acceptable masculine surliness. But the aggressive effects of testosterone are not a replacement for social grace and confidence. Some things must be learned.


Can it be cos of hormones? Actually, i have been around the program, where transsexuals are majority in there. I feel something like a huge wall between what i and they want to talk about. I don't know how to deal in this situation. I passed interviews etc. just to get into the program, sometimes i think it is bad that i hold a seat for one person who is more or less would be into the topics discussed at the program. From the other point, what I was expected and what I got was not the expectation.

I was in a program like that, a long time ago. From the beginning there was a wall like that. It is not your fault, it is because you and them aren't the same. You may be doing some of the same things, but you aren't doing it from the same thinking. They want to say their ideas are the thoughts of anyone who would do what they are doing. But they are wrong. Your life and your reasons are outside of what they have experienced. And they can sense the difference in you. But it is only their over-confidence which makes them so sure that they right and that you were somehow "stupid" or "crazy".


But other than that, sometimes i feel stupid just for nothing and i am depressed of that too. again can it be cos of testosterone ?

Have you ever had feeling like that?

[Olim]

Thank you spacegirl, I feel alot better. :)

[notodd]

I have an incredible habit of pissing people off. I don't mean to, but it happens. I also feel stupid and unwanted most of the time, so I don't say anything much anymore.

But, like you, I'm not an idiot. I'm just not as clued up as the people around me.

[M-A]

I have an incredible habit of pissing people off. I don't mean to, but it happens. I also feel stupid and unwanted most of the time, so I don't say anything much anymore.

This is most likely due to body language, or lack thereof. It's a common experiment to demonstrate that communication is 80% non-verbal: the same people will react very differently to the exact same words spoken by different people, all due to the different posture, pronounciation, intonation and gestures.

The good thing is, you can train in order to improve your gesturing, pose and elocution. Give it some serious thought, it makes tremendous difference in social relationships :)

[joezoe]

You are not stupid!Girl!Do whatever you think that is right! and be confidence.