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[Janessa]

Hiya, my name is Janessa. I currently consider myself transgender and am currently seeing a therapist, because I strongly feel I should be female instead of male. However, I have a few reasons to believe I might possibly be intersexed. Although I have yet to get a doctor or anyone else to confirm my suspicions even a little bit. =\

I have a long scar across my waste from surgery that my parents claim is due to a birth defect rendering me incapable of urinating. I also have what might be mild gynecomastia, as I am able to grab a handful at only 115 pounds and they do protrude further than my stomach, but no-one seems to notice so this may be normal. I also have hips slightly wider than my waste, but I am not sure if most of these things may simply be because I am pretty thin at the age of 18 or if this may hint at me being intersexed. I have also been told I have unusually soft skin for a boy by multiple people. =x

Well I hope I can learn more about being intersexed and maybe even learn if I myself am intersexed or not. :???:

[The Female Eunuch]

Hello Janessa and welcome to Bodies Like Ours.

It doesn't sound like you're intersexed, but I'm intrigued by the scar you referred to. Is it round your waist at the front or the back? If it's on one or both sides, reaching round to the back, it could be kidney-related. Otherwise, I'm not sure how it could be related to the urinary system (unless it was a location where you had had a urinary ostomy - a little tube of red flesh for urine to come out through on your belly and a bag to collect it - but you'd remember that).

cheers,
Caroline

[Janessa]

Hello Janessa and welcome to Bodies Like Ours.

It doesn't sound like you're intersexed, but I'm intrigued by the scar you referred to. Is it round your waist at the front or the back? If it's on one or both sides, reaching round to the back, it could be kidney-related. Otherwise, I'm not sure how it could be related to the urinary system (unless it was a location where you had had a urinary ostomy - a little tube of red flesh for urine to come out through on your belly and a bag to collect it - but you'd remember that).

cheers,
Caroline

Thanks for the welcome. =p

My scar is at the front and runs all the way across reaching both hips, though I'm not sure where the urinary tract is. I got the surgery when I was like 3 or younger, so I don't remember anything about the surgery. My parents told me they thought I was going to be a girl before I was born, so maybe all of this is just confusing me since I'm also transgender. =x

But yeah, it is starting to sound like the hips and breasts are just because I'm so skinny.

[Anis789]

Thanks for the welcome. =p

My scar is at the front and runs all the way across reaching both hips, though I'm not sure where the urinary tract is. I got the surgery when I was like 3 or younger, so I don't remember anything about the surgery. My parents told me they thought I was going to be a girl before I was born, so maybe all of this is just confusing me since I'm also transgender. =x

But yeah, it is starting to sound like the hips and breasts are just because I'm so skinny.

Hi and welcome :)

You mention your are thin so having breast isnt to do with weight thier is a condtion called gynecomastia formation of breats on male body.

Did you see a urologist growing up maybe that would help, I had hypospadias which meant the opening to my penis wasnt in the right place, if you were intersex more surgery would have been down down in between your legs.

i gathered form somewhere that in girls they have unexplained surgery as teens to remove a teste that ggrows with in but if you were born with a male body this wouldnt make sense

I wish you all the best in finding yourslef I hope youin time have they body that you want and feel that is right for you, in the short time that I have known of my intersex i have learnt that there is some conflict between intersex and transgender transexualsim but thats only becuase intersex is misunderstood and shoved under the LGNT umbrella and I for one feel intersex people should work with LGBT but also remebr that intersex is different in many ways.

All the best, please dont let anyone tell you who and what you are only you know that :)

[Kripke]

Hello Janessa, welcome ;)