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Wyn
05-09-05, 07:45 PM
I just bought a digital camera. I now KNOW that I cannot achieve that which I had hoped to – to become the woman that I born as, and was supposed to develop into. It has become painfully obvious that my skeleton has become far too masculinized, particularly the head, to make any transition viable or worthwhile.

This is ALL due to the malicious, arrogant, and brutal actions taken by the doctors, so many years ago. They just HAD to try out their new ideas and techniques on me – when else would such a set of circumstances (a true hermaphrodite being put up for adoption) occur again?

I am now a ‘masculine’ hermaphrodite that has been mutilated such that I cannot respond sexually as a male due to my recent feminine maturation, but I can as a female, just only in an extremely limited fashion – wholly due to the mutilation that I was subjected to. I ‘look’ male, but feel and respond as a female. It wouldn’t be so bad if I was a younger, but, at the age of 50, the entire justification for transitioning becomes moot.

The saddest, most horrific part is that I KNEW what I was (female) when I was 20 (even before), but these feelings had be ignored as my ‘father’ would not permit me to challenge my assignment, and to further this action, refused to tell me ANYTHING about what was done to me – he too is a FUCKING ASSHOLE – just like the doctors that did this to me!

I’d like to have a relationship, but that is near impossible to achieve due to the ‘freak’ value of my body as it is now. My skeleton is primarily masculine, but my soft tissue is primarily feminine – I have the head and limbs and voice of a ‘man’, but the torso of a woman. No woman would want a ‘man’ who cannot ‘perform’ as one, nor looks like one naked, and no gay woman would want a ‘woman’, that looks and sounds like a man! Sexually speaking, I truly am a NOTHING.

And I will have NOTHING to do with MEN – in simple terms, they are primitive, aggressive, vicious, violent, and brutal animals – nothing more than primitive quasi-intelligent anthropoids. Truthfully, males, and the Y chromosome, are simply tragically mutated ‘females/X chromosome’, such that they cannot bear (or care about) children – but they sure can rape and kill them, can’t they? And in GREAT NUMBERS, I might add.

Simply put, if you got rid of all the men in the world, you’d solve 95% of the world’s problems. It’s bad enough that I can’t stand them, but to top it off, I Look like one, and am forced to ‘live’ and work as one, just to pay the bills – that had come about strictly due to the male assignment that was forced on me at six months old.

The only way that I will achieve a sense of peace in my life is to end it. I am not in any way even remotely accepting about what was done to me, or my assignment, particularly the reasons, justifications, brainwashing and lies that were perpetrated against my infant body and mind - all because I did not fit the ‘norm’.

Through my death is the only way that I can come to grips with their actions, and the resultant mutilation and mutation of my body into something it was never meant to be. It will also be the only way that I will KNOW EXACTLY what they did to me. This alone is reason enough to end my existence in this vicious and brutal world, made as such due to the dominant (primitive and myopic) monotheistic and patriarchal world view.

I don’t know, nor will I say, where or when I will choose this path. All I’ll say is that it should come as no surprise when it does occur.

Peter
05-09-05, 08:50 PM
Hi Wyn,

Your last post really concerns me.

You wrote: "I just bought a digital camera. I now KNOW that I cannot achieve that which I had hoped to – to become the woman that I born as, and was supposed to develop in."

What did the digital camera reveal? If you were born as a woman, or with womanly external features, there could very well be visible evidence that you were once a woman or intersex. In my case, a digital camera revealed that I had perineum pseudovagina v-y flap surgery to close a vaginal opening. The digital camera allowed me to see in greater detail things that I had always been told by others when I was younger.

You said that you cannot become the woman you were born as. I believe in some really profound manner that trans people are born as the people that they transition to. As a woman, there are remarkable possibilities of bringing your external appearance more in line with your inner self. Hopefully, there are trans support groups in your area.

In my mind, I am wondering what is holding you back from bringing your external appearance more in line with your inner self. I say go for it, if that is what you really want. I feel that life often begins at fifty. I know that in many important ways, it did for me in terms of self-acceptance. I know of a couple of trans people who transitioned in their fifties, and are now happily living in their seventies. There is a woman in my office who transitioned in her fifties, and is now very popular in our office.

At fifty, you get a chance to break from the conditioning that dominated your earlier life. You can move beyond your father's negative opinion of you, and be the person that you have always wanted to be. Besides, think of all the joy that transitioning can bring. Joan Roughgarden's notes on the joys of transitioning, in her book "Evolution's Rainbow", were a real eye-opener for me.

Peter

MelissP
05-09-05, 09:00 PM
I just bought a digital camera. I now KNOW that I cannot achieve that which I had hoped to – to become the woman that I born as, and was supposed to develop into. It has become painfully obvious that my skeleton has become far too masculinized, particularly the head, to make any transition viable or worthwhile.


Well, since you're planning on eventually killing yourself anyways, could
you please post your picture and let everyone else be the judge of that?
Really, I've seen some pretty amazing changes during the times I'd hung
out with ts'ae.


I ‘look’ male, but feel and respond as a female. It wouldn’t be so bad if I was a younger, but, at the age of 50, the entire justification for transitioning becomes moot.


Why is it moot? I've met some 50yo's who made the effort and seem to
be enjoying their lives.


I’d like to have a relationship, but that is near impossible to achieve due to the ‘freak’ value of my body as it is now. My skeleton is primarily masculine, but my soft tissue is primarily feminine – I have the head and limbs and voice of a ‘man’, but the torso of a woman. No woman would want a ‘man’ who cannot ‘perform’ as one, nor looks like one naked, and no gay woman would want a ‘woman’, that looks and sounds like a man! Sexually speaking, I truly am a NOTHING.


The woman who married Billy Tipton didn't seem to mind all that.
You'd be surprised. And do you know how many people used to try to
emulate KD back around Ingenue? Not to mention Kings (who rule:-)

Voice lessons.
Also, I think cortisone tends to reduce grittiness. You might not need
it though, and sometimes it seems like a deal with the devil.


Simply put, if you got rid of all the men in the world, you’d solve 95% of the world’s problems. It’s bad enough that I can’t stand them, but to top it off, I Look like one, and am forced to ‘live’ and work as one, just to pay the bills – that had come about strictly due to the male assignment that was forced on me at six months old.


Oh, that's so mean :-( Some of the guys aren't bad. And even the str8 ones
can be pleasant sometimes (having the door held for me is weird ... )


The only way that I will achieve a sense of peace in my life is to end it. I am not in any way even remotely accepting about what was done to me, or my assignment, particularly the reasons, justifications, brainwashing and lies that were perpetrated against my infant body and mind - all because I did not fit the ‘norm’.


I was going to say something fairly spiritual and philosophical here,
but I think it would go unappreciated. Whence my diagnosis arrives,
hopefully in the near future, do you think it will say I've been through
less? Yet the past is gone. Happiness lays behind your eyes.


Through my death is the only way that I can come to grips with their actions, and the resultant mutilation and mutation of my body into something it was never meant to be. It will also be the only way that I will KNOW EXACTLY what they did to me.


(Moan) How do dead former people get the chance to know anything?
let alone come to grips? Life is precious. Treasure each moment, and
pray for more.

bye -Melissa

Betsy
05-09-05, 10:33 PM
Due to the nature of Wyn's post, we are dealing with this situation off-line including making sure Wyn gets the support Wyn needs right now---that is, support in the local community, access to professional resources, and personal resources that can not be obtained online.

After discussion with Peter, we've decided the best course of action is to lock this thread to bar further postings on it even though I am sure all replies would be of a supportive nature. Should you wish to send a personal note of support to Wyn off-line, let me know and I will make sure Wyn gets it.

Betsy