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[shortie181]

Hello. I am a 22 year old female. I found out that i had mrkh when i was 17. Since then i have been dealing with it the best that i can. Sometimes it is very hard still to accept that i am not as 'normal' as other females my age.
When i found out about it, my cousin had taken me to the doc because i had not yet gotton a period and i was scared and my cousin was worried.
Well i had a checkup and the doctor referred me to a different doctor and that is when i was told. My grandparents and my dad were there and they were completely upset. I on the other hand was in denial.
I didnt believe what he was telling me. I had a bf at the time and tried explainin it to him and he just stopped talkin to me completely. I thought i could trust him but i was totally wrong.
What i would like is to find others who have the same problems as i do and start talkin with them. I have questions that i have not gotton answered since i found out and i would very much like to have someone who has went thru the same things as i to talk to about it.

[Glenn]

Welcome aboard! What should we call you? "Shortie" doesn't seem appropriate, unless that's what you want...

Thank you for reaching out. There's a lot of women in your proverbial boat, and I'm sure the company can help make it easier. Unfortunately that won't necessarily make some people, maybe including your bf, understand.

If you haven't found it yet, http://www.mrkh.org/ also has some good resources.

Please feel free to vent and/or ask questions - most of us have already!

Glenn

[Caitlin]

Hello. Thanks for posting! I can myself relate to some of the things you mentioned in your post. I am currently 20 years old and was diagnosed with MRKH at the age of 15. At the time of my diagnosis until finding the support I needed within the intersex community (shortly after I turned 18), I was living in shame and secrecy.

Over the last couple years, I have grown and learned so much. I have started to accept and even like the body I was born with. I have my moments when I wish I had been born differently so that it would be easier, but in the long run I think the natural diversity of bodies is really awesome!

I know there are probably so many questions you have (as you mentioned in your post) and I would be happy to try and answer anything I can. One of the best things for me was gaining the basic knowledge about MRKH. Gaining this information is very empowering. I can be reached at caitlin@queerbodies.org or at revolutiongrrrlstyle@hotmail.com

Good luck and I hope to hear from you!

Caitlin

P.S. Check out Bodies Like Ours youth initiative at www.queerbodies.org

[Natasha (again)]

Well here is another important message I missed. <sigh>

I know it is tough being different shortie. Then again I wonder if anybody, really is normal. Most of us want to be other than what we are, taller, shorter, thinner, bigger boobs etc.

Could it be that the entire concept of normal is artificial, and does no one any good at all? I think so.

Please do come back and talk to us. I am sorry I missed your message earlier. Truth is I was on the road, and unable to get on the computer at the time you arrived here.

I sure hope you come back.

Natasha

[Andi]

"Could it be that the entire concept of normal is artificial, and does no one any good at all? I think so."

One definition of 'normal' is 'average'. Therefore to be 100% normal would mean that one would need to be 100% average in every way. Now, everyone is better at some things than others, and conversely, everyone has some things that others are better at than they are. Some are physically strong, some are not. Some are very smart, some are not exceptionally bright & some people are just plain dumb. (OK, I'll stop now since I figure you see my point) So, if someone were to be 100% average (and therefore 100% 'normal') in every way, this would probably be the only person on Earth like that, and therefore would not be 'normal'.
So, to sum it all up: Normal = Abnormal

How's that? ;)

Andi

[Natasha (again)]

The term has no real intrinsic meaning, other than what people give to it, and so that varies accordingly.

Which is better than the accordion, unless it POLKA TIME!



Natasha

Nice to hear from you Andi!