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Betsy
09-26-03, 09:56 PM
Despite the crappy weather, we had a wonderrful day in Hartford, CT this morning, including a wonderful article in the Hartford Courant. I'm going to write/post wrap-up of this action this weekend (I'm too beat now....I've slept little upon learning that we needed to mobilize)

In the meantime, for your your reading pleasure from the Hartford Courant:


Born Neither Girl Nor Boy, They Speak Out
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By DANIELA ALTIMARI
Courant Staff Writer

September 26, 2003

Even as a little girl, Betsy Driver knew her body was different.

It was only after she turned 35 and began poring over yellowed copies of her medical records that she uncovered the truth. When she was born, her anatomy did not fit the standard definitions of male or female, so doctors operated on her genitals to make her look more like a typical girl.

"One of the most basic things you're accustomed to hearing after having a baby is `Congratulations, you had a boy' or `Congratulations, you had a girl,' not `Congratulations, we'll have to get back to you,' which is what my mother heard," Driver said.

Hundreds of infants undergo genital surgery each year, but such procedures have grown increasingly controversial. Activists such as Driver are highly critical, saying children with ambiguous genitalia should forgo medical intervention until they are old enough to decide for themselves whether surgery is right for them. She helped form a group called Bodies Like Ours, which plans to stage its first protest at Connecticut Children's Medical Center in Hartford today to draw attention to its cause.

Some doctors agree. Dr. Philip Gruppuso, a pediatric endocrinologist at Brown University and Rhode Island Hospital, said genital surgery often isn't successful and sometimes leaves patients sexually dysfunctional.

"I just keep coming back to `First, do no harm,'" Gruppuso said, citing the physician's creed. "I'm far from convinced that the surgery does no harm. And it is permanent."

Other medical experts defend the practice of operating on intersex infants. In their view, allowing a child to grow up with ambiguous genitalia, and the schoolyard taunting and shaky self-esteem that often come with it, would be unethical.

"Intersex" is a broad term that encompasses a range of anomalies affecting the sex chromosomes, external genitalia or internal reproductive organs. Experts estimate that as many as 1 percent of all infants have some type of genital malformation, although the majority are relatively mild, such as hypospadias, a misplaced urethral opening on the penis. The Intersex Society of North America, an advocacy and education group, estimates that one to two infants out of every 1,000 born have surgery to "normalize" their genital appearance.

In the not-so-distant past, surgery was the only option for parents of intersex infants. Dr. Paul H. Dworkin, physician-in-chief at Connecticut Children's Medical Center, credits activist groups such as Bodies Like Ours for changing that.

"There have been advances in understanding as a result of research and as a result of advocacy," Dworkin said. "I hope what we do at Connecticut Children's reflects best practice and would address many of the concerns that groups like Bodies Like Ours have raised."

The organization targeted the children's medical center after learning that a nationally known pediatric urologist was scheduled to deliver a lecture and perform surgery Friday. However, Dr. Richard Rink canceled his visit after hearing about the protest. He did not return a phone call seeking comment, but Dworkin said Rink was concerned about the patient's privacy.

Dworkin said he welcomes a dialogue with Driver and other activists. Connecticut Children's Medical Center performs genital surgery on young patients, although never with the intent of altering a child's gender.

"This, like so many things in medicine, is never black or white," Dworkin said. "It's never surgery or no surgery. It's always multifaceted. ... The key is enabling patients, or in the case of young children, families ... to assimilate all the information so they can make an informed decision. The answer for Child A is more than likely to be different for Child B."

For Bethany Hays Park, the answer was clear: Surgery for her intersex daughter was out of the question. The girl was born nine months ago with congenital adrenal hyperplasia, a genetic condition affecting girls that often results in an enlarged clitoris and other signs of "virilization."

"I was very much in denial that she had any type of medical disorder," said Hays Park, of Olympia, Wash. "I just didn't feel like there was anything wrong with her at all. ... I just feel like I would have to educate myself."

Driver said she wishes her mother had a similar view. But that was nearly four decades ago, and parents then were far more willing to bow to the medical establishment than they are today, she said.

"My mother feels lied to and misled," Driver said. "She feels parents need to know it's OK to have a baby like me."

A former assignment manager for an Atlanta television station, Driver, who lives in New Jersey, left her job two years ago to focus on her activism full time. Her aim, she said, is to end the shame, secrecy and isolation felt by people with intersex conditions. Bodies Like Ours, which has a mailing list of about 500, is contemplating similar protests elsewhere in the country.

"When we have diabetes, we don't hide it," Driver said. "But when we're intersex, we do. People are afraid; they believe all these myths, like we have two full sets of sex organs and we can have sex with ourselves."

She compares the nascent intersex movement to the gay rights cause 30 years ago. "We're not freaks," she said. "We're the people who live next door to you."



More information on intersex individuals may be found at the Bodies Like Ours website, www.bodieslikeours.org; the Intersex Society of North America website, www.isna.org; the Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia Research, Education and Support website, www.caresfoundation.org; and Dr. Richard Rink's homepage, www.iupui.edu/{tilde}urology/pediatric/rink.htm.
Copyright 2003, Hartford Courant

Natasha (again)
09-27-03, 12:24 AM
Your courage is doing allot of good, and will save many IS children, a lifetime of pain.

Thank you so much.

Natasha

Betsy
09-27-03, 07:54 PM
Well, you are most welcome. Someone needs to do it and it seems I have been endowed with that ability. Not only did we get Rink to cancel, we were able to share our message with many people who had no clue what is going on in their world.

Betsy

Natasha (again)
09-27-03, 08:46 PM
I just cannot hold this in any longer.

I wish I could have gone to that action. Yet lack of funds prevented me, and as well commitments here. Yet I am sure that if I could have found the money for it, I would have found the time somehow.

There is another consideration though. I know for a fact that certain activists, with both time and money to attend such actions, would have been far less than gracious to me had I showed up. Now that may seem to be a poor excuse to you, I really don't know, but from my perspective it is not, and here is why Betsy.

The last thing I want is any repeats, of earlier meetings I have had in person with some IS activists. I have experienced about all the hate and contempt I can stomach at this point in my life. Now of course this depends upon the motivation and the source of it as well. But to receive it from your own, those with whom I have far more in common than any other type of person living. Well that is just too much.

It is one thing to travel hundreds of miles alone, on a very tight budget. To be greated by friends of similar mind who welcome me, to join them in a common purpose. It is however quite another thing to do the same, only to arrive to those making no attempt to hide their suspicion, resentment, and displaced anger and contempt toward me.

In the former situation, I would find camaraderie and assistance in both securing a place to stay etc. In the later case heaven only knows how bad it would get. Yet surely I would not find any assistance in securing any necessary considerations. Not only would I not really be welcome, but I would possibly have my personal safety jeopardized. For the failure of those so biased, to help me in a strange city under potentially adverse circumstances.

You see Betsy, years ago I was loudly and scornfully denounced, simply for expressing my desire to change back to the sex I was raised as. By an Intersex activist whom I still greatly admire. I had gone to her for guidance at the suggestion of my physician, who had clarified and confirmed, an earlier diagnosis by another physician of hermaphroditism. On another more recent occasion I was similarly received by a famous activist, when I went to her on-line forum. I was denounced as a fraud, my posts deleted, and then banned.

Yet I do what I can Betsy. This includes recently establishing a relationship, with a woman who works for the Social Security Administration. Who confided to me that she has on more than one occasion, come into contact with parents of IS children. Who being pressured to allow surgery, such of the unnecessary kind at that, were very distraught.

This came to light because I do frequently advocate for IS people, by drawing from my own personal experience. You see I had asked her about this, for I knew she must. I pointed toward both this and the ISNA website, and I pledged my great desire to help such parents, in any way possible. I gave her my address and phone number, and begged her to either call me, or just pass my contact info on to such parents.

I really wish that my presence, my efforts and talent, would be at least considered as a resource by other IS activists. But from what I have experienced so far, I have even far less than a reason to believe I am considered in any way, except as an unwelcome heretical outsider.

In my opinion this is to the loss of the IS community.

Natasha

elijah
09-28-03, 02:01 AM
i dont think that betsy was saying that you dont do any thing positive twards IS education.
there is a lack of people doing public speaking and i have seen that just from the amount of people who have recently contacted me to speak.
i wasnt able to go to hartford either, i had to work double shifts that day (actually i worked from 5:30am until 10:30pm. blech)
but i dont see myself as any less of an activist because of it.
i dunno, i didnt see her message as saying that you werent an activist or anything...

Natasha (again)
09-28-03, 02:27 AM
Originally posted by elijah
i dont think that betsy was saying that you dont do any thing positive twards IS education.
there is a lack of people doing public speaking and i have seen that just from the amount of people who have recently contacted me to speak.
i wasnt able to go to hartford either, i had to work double shifts that day (actually i worked from 5:30am until 10:30pm. blech)
but i dont see myself as any less of an activist because of it.
i dunno, i didnt see her message as saying that you werent an activist or anything...


I don't think she was either Elijah, and I didn't intend to direct that at Betsy. Sorry to give that impression. She and I have discussed this before, and I think she knows the incidents I speak of.

This is just something that has really bothered me for a long time, and it finally just boiled over. But as I said, that is the main reason I didn't go to the action.

Sorry I was unclear.

Natasha