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Priestess
07-23-06, 12:09 AM
Sometimes it feels like the night is closing in on me. Maybe better to talk, so to hear myself talking. To write so to see that I have written. To feel life reflected in the footprints living has left. But then the night remains, in rustling winds.

Who was Marie? Two years ago, I was given the baby book which my mother once kept of me. She intended, I think, for it to answer my curiousity, though as it happened I was given new questions to ask.

In the very beginning of the book, in an envelope containing some papers from immediately after my birth, and some cute pictures of my infant self, there was a sales brochure from a funeral home, with what looks like the name "Marie" written on it. I eventually asked my mother who Marie was & she became pretty emotional, I had to stop her from making the brochure disappear forever. She demanded I return the book and was angry when I wouldn't.

My mother will not talk to me about this subject. But it wasn't the first time I've heard the name. While I may appreciate and enjoy my name now, there was once when I was reluctant but coerced into having it. My reluctance was nothing compared to my mother's distaste for Melissa. When I asked her if she had any better ideas, she said I should have chosen the name Marie. And that has been her last and only words on the subject. At the time I was confused, one name seemed like another. I hadn't seen the brochure yet.

Now I wonder, sometimes in the night. Marie? Like seeing a ghost reflected in a mirror's glass. Was she someone who lived? Or an illusion created from the wishes of a young mother as she was pushed to the edge? The questions now fail me. I just can't help feeling like I've heard the name somewhere before. Oh well. :2in1:

mohnblume
07-23-06, 04:35 AM
Hang it on to your first, or whatever name ... and Maria will come to life. As a part of yours.

Priestess
07-23-06, 01:35 PM
It doesn't flow so well with the rest of my name. And if my mother thought it was so important, she should have said something earlier.

Though besides that, I don't know if that was what she might have wanted for me? Or if it belonged to someone else who was tangled up in my birth? That is what haunts me some nights.

What if I was adopted from someone named Marie who died in childbirth? People think I look more like the family of the grandfather who I'm not technically related to, than I look like anyone who is supposed to be my family. And after meeting them at the funeral, I see there is a resemblance.

What if I had a still-born twin and my mother named it, and doesn't want to tell?

What if I'm one of those cases of absorbed twins? Besides the doctor who accused me of forging everything, some of the others have said they don't understand how I could have what seems to be in there. Dr Heaney was supposed to take a cell sample for dna testing, but then he refused.

Maybe I have live for my own life instead of my family's wishes. They always treated me as less human than my siblings or cousins, but never said why. And now they disown me, because distant relatives and my grandfather's family were very friendly and accepting of the truth. It makes me wonder about some of the oddly inappropriate gifts I recieved as a child. Coincidence? maybe.

fraulein_Maria
07-24-06, 12:12 PM
What if I had a still-born twin and my mother named it, and doesn't want to tell?

>>>> i have a similar mystery. My mothers first child was Rachel who died shortly after birth due to multiple "deformities". given that babies like me supposedly seldom live (why 3 beta is supposedly so rare) i have to wonder. I have been told throughout my life that she was.....

"taken back home, because i had no guardian angel, and so God made her mine."

alas, my mother is not alive to answer, but it is doubtful that she ever would have as long as my father lived...... and he has out lived her. Too evil to die, i say on my bad days. Simply not ready on my good ones. Either way, its unlikely i'll get any answers out of him. Best to press on as i'm going.<<<<

Priestess
07-24-06, 06:41 PM
help

Priestess
07-24-06, 10:26 PM
I almost thought I was going to lose me there, for a couple hours.
I'm still here. I have another doc's appt tommorow. I'll hope for a miracle.

I'm holding out my only candle, though it's so little light to find my way
Now this story's been laid beneath my candle
And it's shorter every hour as it reaches for the day
Yes, I feel just like a candle in the way
I hope I'll get there, but I never pray
- Jackson Browne

Kailana
07-31-06, 03:28 PM
It may be easier to ask relatives then your mom. I have found that to often be true. Best wishes

Priestess
07-31-06, 03:39 PM
It may be easier to ask relatives then your mom. I have found that to often be true. Best wishes

I did, and they told me some things, until my grandfather passed away. I wonder if he was the only reason they were willing to continue associating with me. Now they've built a wall all over again, and the doctors say that the things they told me don't count.

Kailana
07-31-06, 03:46 PM
you know i think we have alot in common, family experiences and doctor experiences.

Sorry to here about the reversal and what the doctors say. I think they think they are doing us good when they say we are normal when labs tests and scans show that we arent.

I actually think that alot of it is that People now adays dont trust Doctors the way they used too. Yet Doctors still try to show or act as if they are all knowing and that there decisions and opinions are beyond challenging.

I have to go soon. best luck of luck but i ll be back tomorrow

Priestess
07-31-06, 03:57 PM
you know i think we have alot in common, family experiences and doctor experiences.

Sorry to here about the reversal and what the doctors say. I think they think they are doing us good when they say we are normal when labs tests and scans show that we arent.

I actually think that alot of it is that People now adays dont trust Doctors the way they used too. Yet Doctors still try to show or act as if they are all knowing and that there decisions and opinions are beyond challenging.

I have to go soon. best luck of luck but i ll be back tomorrow

I'll try, somehow. efxaristo (thanks)