Please bid her a good journey

[Betsy]

Friends,

My mother is on the verge of dying after a long battle with cancer. Late this afternoon she went into a coma and it looks like tonight or early tomorrow we will lose her. Thankfully, she is in hospice care so she can go peacefully.

She was truly my biggest cheerleader with everything I have done, and was a great emotional supporter of Bodies. She often commented on how she wishes she had a place like Bodies to turn to or at least read while she was dealing with having a baby that was "different" instead of having to rely on doctors who thought I needed to be surgically changed.

As you embark on your day or bid it good evening, please take a moment to wish her well on her next journey.

Betsy

[Billie Q.]

Betsy,
I will take a moment, just now after I write this, to go to my knees in prayer.

I will ask our Creator to give her a sweet peace, in her transition.

My heart is with you, Betsy.

[Jules]

Betsy, this must be a very tough time for you right now. I lost my mother when I was twenty. She died in her bed, in the early morning, while my father went to give my baby sister a bottle. No crys or gasps, she just left us without a trace of warning. She had a massive heart attack at 42.

I was only twenty then, and my dad and I were left with my nine year old and two year old sisters to take care of. My father worked full-time so I was left with what felt like the world on my shoulders. I'm sure that you as well must feel like the world is on your shoulders now.

Loosing my mom was the worst thing I have ever felt emotionly. Even more so after I learned of my medical condtions and could now understand her suffering about the choices she had to make for me.

If you need a friend to help you with this painfull time you can always lean on me. If you leave your number on a PM I will gladly call and offer you my time, give you support which is vital durring times of great loss.

Your mother will be in my prayers, I worry more about you then her for she going where everbody gos after their odyssey on this world is complete. Remember that she lives on through your words and thoughts. A loved one who lives strongly in our memorys, lives for ever as though they were immortal.

I used to think that I would give anything just for one more day with my mother, now I know that every day she still continues to influance me with her wants, and hopes and dreams: that I would be a happy, bright, postive person, full of life and laughter.
I have become a far brighter and a happier person then she could have dreamed--------and I pray for your sake and your mother's-----so have you.

[Meresa]

I will keep her in my prayers for a peaceful passing.

And for you as well for comfort in your time of loss.

[Betsy]

Thank-you all.

She passed away peacefully this afternoon :(

Betsy

[Billie Q.]

I'll say a prayer, friend, that in your grief you can find solace.

[uriela]

My mother fell off a horse in 1966 and bashed her skull and broke her neck and was a cripple until she died in a head-on auto crash in 1988. She was a role model for me because I couldn't get up on water skiis either, and I didn't want to try again after I saw her head down in the mud (I thought) and the skiis floating upside down on the surface of the water.

In 1966 I thought she would die because she was in a coma for five months, but, no , she survived for the next 20 plus years. I couldn't talk to her about my "condition" because I felt I would hurt her, and it may have resolved some unanswered questions that still remain. Her name came up again when I started my own transition, by my father, who asked me what she would think? Maybe the answer came in a back-handed way when I told him that I was happier this way and his opposition folded. She would have wanted to see me happy. And she died thinking she had done the "right thing" raising me as she had. I wish she could see me now.

She felt she had seen the "other side" during her coma in 1966 and she was caught between a longing for that and to stay around with us all during that time. She dreamed sometimes of her daughter who died a crib death at four months. And that when she got to the other side she would be able to walk without a cane and do all the things she missed so much, like scrubbing the kitchen floor on her hands and knees. As it was she was almost banned from washing dishes by her sister because she didn't get them clean enough.

I was drunk when the call came through and had to sober up for the 12-hour drive to where they lived. Yeah, I was a very unhappy camper back then.

My father had a broken arm from the steering column and was so bruised he could barely talk. He told me to take pictures of the mangled cars for insurance. The cars were in a pasture, lots of brown cows and a bull. Okay.... Well, they were really no trouble. They all were lying down in the shade out of the heat and doing that munching thing that cattle do. I really did wonder that they hadn't eaten all the melon that had broken into pieces in the collision.

Mom had two funerals. One down there and one up here where she was buried. My mother hardly looked like herself. They must have pumped her up with botox. She was buried near the daughter she wanted to see again on the other side.

All this has gone away and now she is in a happier life. And all the crying I have done all these years was all about me.

La Haiim to Betsy's mother!

[Sofie]

When I lost someone I loved, the places we used to be, things we did and said, all empty, until my tears had washed away the pain in my heart and I realized that I hadn't really lost them, because we still loved and cared for each other.
I wish you peace in your heart.
Sofie

[Cherilyn]

U, Betsy's MOM, blessed us by givin' birth to BETSY! She did A LOT!! May u rest in peace! Also, glory life in Heaven! =)

Seecha!

[Peter]

I think your mom must have been a remarkable woman. Your work with BLO is a blessing, and I am glad that your mom was proud of your work. I don't know much about life after death, but I believe that she is on the path of freedom that is glorious in this world and beyond. I wish you peace.

[Glenn]

Well, this really sucks, doesn't it?

We should compare notes. My wife and her brothers started a rant about hearing "I'm so sorry for your loss" a zillion times. Hey, there's no reason to be sorry - you didn't kill them, did you?!

Sorry, I shouldn't be so flippant. Obviously I've been through a similar nightmare recently, so I won't pretend to be back to "normal."

Glenn

[RGMCjim]

Hi Betsy,
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I hope you're getting lots of support and get a little time off to do nothing. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I've been having some really nasty phisical problems and have been out of the loop for months - I'm glad I wandered in and saw the announcement.

Sending hugs -

Jim C.

[Betsy]

I'm sorry this is so overdue. Thank-you to each and everyone of you for your kind words and the emails sent. They mean a whole lot to me and were a source of comfort in those most difficult days. I miss her beyond words..

Betsy

[Andi]

Now I feel bad that I didn't post something sooner. :( Words of condolence are not something I'm any good at & I don't believe anything I could say would really make things any better.
Even if I didn't say it before, you did have my sympathies & still do for as long as you need them

Andi

Originally posted by Betsy
I'm sorry this is so overdue. Thank-you to each and everyone of you for your kind words and the emails sent. They mean a whole lot to me and were a source of comfort in those most difficult days. I miss her beyond words..

Betsy