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Hey, my names Adam. I've been watching the forums for awhile and decided it was about time to finally join and make a post. I am an 18 yr old living and attending an all-girls university in Virginia. As you can guess, this has not been an easy task emotionally, but I love the school so I'm having a lot of conflict with this. *shrugs* but yes, I'm here now and just wanted to introduced myself.
Hi Adam,
Welcome to Bodies Like Ours...I look forward to meeting you some more.
Betsy
Dana Gold
02-11-04, 11:47 AM
Hi Adam,
My name is Dana (duh!:rolleyes: ..it sez so to the left), but I wanted to introduce myself also. Gee, are you now in the first year of college? It must be difficult, then. I wish you well in all of your challenges. Take care.
Dana:)
Yes, I'm a first year. It's rough, but I'm managing to the best of my ability. I had a roommate at the beginning of the year, but after many troubles, I now have a single to myself. The biggest problem I have is identifying as male while being surrounded only by females. I'm seriously thinking about transfering to a co-ed school next year, but I'm not sure if I will have the same support that I have here because right now I am in a very accepting environment.
Betsy,
your icon on your picture looks very familure, did you attend teh teaching respect for all conference this year per haps?
Dana Gold
02-11-04, 04:10 PM
Quote:
"support that I have here because right now I am in a very accepting environment."
Support AND an accepting environment is a precious thing for a person in your situation., you may be the "only one" but it does not seem that you are "all alone."
AND, you get to have a private "pad", another precious thing in a college dorm/housing:cool:
Dana
Originally posted by _Adam_
Betsy,
your icon on your picture looks very familure, did you attend teh teaching respect for all conference this year per haps?
I did. I presented a workshop as well. I look fat in that picture however, one of these days I need to corral someone with a digital camera to take some new ones for me.
Betsy
Dana,
I do feel very happy here, but I constantly feel as if I am cheating the university or that I may have possible complications with having a degree from an all girls university on future job applications, ect.
Betsy,
Thant's where I know you from. I went to that workshop (the one you did with elijah correct?). That's where I got this site info from. I've been watching the site ever since...
Wow...someone was paying attention? :p Kewl...welcome and nice avatar!
Betsy
Wow, that was easy, I thought I had to do something to make it work...Thanks!
Dana Gold
02-11-04, 06:04 PM
Dear Adam,
You seem to have thought things in advance and I do see your point. May I ask if you are in a 2 or 4 year college? (i.e. AA or BA). Yes, you do have a lot on your plate.
May I assume that you are or will be "transitioning" to male.? If so, have you thought out the legalities involved in changing your other pertinent documentation to Adam and some others (like driver's license) to male gender. That would be so you may graduate as such. If you have not done so already, it would be wise to seek information/guidance from others who have been or are in the same situation as you. Anyway, young man, study hard, don't stay up too late,
keep your room clean, eat well, brush your teeth :rolleyes: Sorry, Adam , I'm just foolin' with you:;)
Bye :D
I didn't realize that being around guys so much and pretending that I was one of them was such a trial until much later in life. At least you are thinking about it. And you apparently know much more about yourself at a much younger age.
The first year away at college--a co-ed school--dropped me into depression. One thing about a co-ed school though--maybe the newer ones are different--was that I still was stuck in a mostly male milieu, just because society plans it that way. The dorms were only for men or only for women. Sports in general was also segregated that way too. Even badminton and tennis, would you believe?
I still found myself isolating like crazy.
Kids today seem to be much more aware of their identity--not so afraid of revealing it these days, than they used to. I was terrified. Barely dared to try to escape the cliche male persona.
Now, when I "outed" myself to the alumni association, they asked if they could put me on the queer mailing list. That was unheard of when I was going to school. Not that I have heard anything more of it, though.
Either way in those days, it would have been tough.
Maybe it was a way for me to maintain the same old facade, by staying with the boys.
Pardon me, I'm pseudo everything. So feel free to ignore me.
It seems, though, that women seem to be freer about gender different people than guys are. I think of men as being more the sequestered sex than women are. Maybe my perceptions are skewed because I identify as female. Not that women are not the more protected! Just that they are not shackled with the same horrific societal expectations that men are, that they fit into THE mold.
Are you satisfied with a unisex presentation?
I missed my PFLAG meeting on Tuesday and I have to act up somewhere!
Welcome to Bodies, Adam!
Welcome to BLO! Adam. Very thrilled to hear your in school and doing as well as you can. If there is anything I can do to help, let me know. I'm in school as well, I'm doing really good and have some hidden advantages over other students
Looking foword to your posts:D
Hi Adam!
Welcome. I am also in school, albeit a very conservative one. But even Texas A&M is becoming a safer place for those of us outside the "norms". We have a lot of good allies these days.
Again, welcome! Great Pic BTW.
Hi Adam,
Welcome. I have been reading your posts. In one post, you say that you constantly feel like you are "cheating the university". When I was growing up, my sixth grade teacher related to our class how she had gone through college on a "Boys' Club" scholarship. We never learned the details, but we were all in awe of her accomphishment in overcoming the tough streets. She went on to become an accomplished educator and traveled around the world teaching in different countries. Good luck with your classes.
Peter
Asumeing your orentaion is woman, If I was in a all girl school, my hormones would race 24/7. Like a kid in a candy shop! I wonder if some of your diffuculty is looking at all the goodies and not being able to touch. I'm an intersexed boy who grew up in a girls body. ALthough I'm pleased with how I look I can understand that you might like to have male friends and that's tough in a all girl school.
Sorry Everyone...I've been out of the loop for a few days doing drag king stuff (for pictures from Friday's show go here http://www.livejournal.com/users/a_bit_of_memory/ ).
Jules- about the issue of wanting to play in the candy shop, well, this is a very liberal school so the lesbain and bisexual world is very open and accepting on campus. GLBT issues are greatly accepted (one of the reasons I'm concidering staying here during transformation)
ptrinkl108- Hum, that's really interesting really...I wish I could know the whole story there ya kno...
I took a look at your pictures. Great attitude. I have been thinking over your situation, and believe that if you have a room of your own, you have something. I would imagine that the quality of education where you are at, being an all girls' school, is probably better than what you would get at most community colleges.
I assume that the transition that you are talking about is FTM, and that your orientation is towards women. It's good to hear that there is an active LGB community on your campus.
As an intersex man, who has extensive scars in the vaginal area, I am somewhat reluctant about genital surgery. I don't know about the state of FTM surgery, but in my case, somewhat similar procedures did not really excite me.
Peter
I am a pretty happy individual because I alow myself to live and be who I am. Everyone around me either accepts or tolerates me or is avoided. I do identify with being an FTM. I have made the decision to not go through with bottom surgery. It is not apealing to me. I do however wish to have top surgery sometime in the future. My sexual preference varies from women to FTMs.
RGMCjim
02-23-04, 11:46 PM
Adam,
Good school and friendly school mates aside I think I'd find it terribly lonely to be the only man in a school of women. I think I'd feel vulnerable and exposed - the veritable petunia in the onion patch..... ;) That's saying a lot for me 'cause God knows I never pass up a spot light or a microphone.
I hope you get a chance to just be with other guys somewhere, sometime. Soon.
Jim
cougar9q
02-24-04, 12:04 AM
Hey,
Adam, I just wanted to give you my own hello and welcome, even though my greetings are a little late......anyway..
Welcome Aboard!
Monica
hey adam, i remember you!
sorry im so late in replying to this post.
ive been away from the board for a bit, but trying to get back in the swing of things.
how close are you to d.c.?
You remeber me? WOW! yeah, I'm in virginia about 4 hrs away from DC.
yeah i do!
there was another guy named adam there too that i talked to.
bunch of adams walking around.
ive also seen you on livejournal
anyway, i saw you posting about speaking to a class at your school.
if you want some help with that, feel free to get in touch.
On live journal? oh no! How did you find me on there might I ask? P.S.-if your on there u should add me and I'll add you back. BTW...I wasn't Adam at the time of the conference..
i know you werent but ive also seen you on the dcats list.
:)
i get bored sometimes and go looking for livejournals of people on dcats and ran accros yours.
ah ok, well mine's friends only so it probably wasn't interesting if at all visible in any way to you. Yeah. I keep meaning to go up for a dcat meeting but I've been too busy kinging lately that I haven't had the chance to. I really want/need to though. It's just kinda far away...*sigh*
Originally posted by RGMCjim
Adam,
Good school and friendly school mates aside I think I'd find it terribly lonely to be the only man in a school of women. I think I'd feel vulnerable and exposed - the veritable petunia in the onion patch..... ;) That's saying a lot for me 'cause God knows I never pass up a spot light or a microphone.
I hope you get a chance to just be with other guys somewhere, sometime. Soon.
Jim
Well, yeah that is my big issue that I deal with, which is why I even concider transfering. If it wasn't for this issue I would stay and not think twice.
Hello Monica, Nice to meet you....:)
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