Steaphany
05-16-04, 03:17 AM
Hi There,
I knew about this site but Beach told me about the forums and recommended this as a way to become socially active in the intersex community.
I'm a practical femme lesbian intersexed woman, though I originally thought I was a born male and a transsexual until I went with a friend to Sue Ellen's in Dallas. The weather was warm, so I dressed comfortably, a T-shirt, shorts, and sandles. I did not bother with any makeup. Well, I was clocked as a biologic woman and one gal told my friend that I have no chance to ever pass as a dude. She actually thought I was a failing transman and she gave my friend a list a mile long of reasons why I better quit taking testosterone and go back to living the woman that I was born to be. My friend said that I just did not dress femme enough that day.
More recently, the same friend helped me realize that I'm intersexed. She thought that I knew and was just using the story of being a transsexual as a cover. Well, I have been able to confirm various aspects of my young childhood to realize that I did receive surgery and was made to look male. My friend suspects that I'm 47-XXY and my doctor agrees that I need to have the chromosomal analysis done. I just have to find a way to save for that. I'll be visiting my father next week and I'm planning on getting a chance to talk with him in detail about what transpired.
Transition wise, I was diagnosed with GID have been granted a legal change of name and gender. Yup, my Texas drivers license actually says that I flunked sex. ;-) I have been living full time presenting as a female and have been on female HRT since 2001. I still need to have SRS, but my goal is to have that before the end of the year.
I have been married for 17 going on 18 years, but we are now separated, and we will be getting a divorce. My wife is having a lot of difficulty with my transition and she is more interested in the neighbors opinions and fears of being labeled a lesbian instead of taking the time to understand what was done to me or what I need to put my life where it should to be.
I have gotten socially active in the lesbian community, I want to do the same in the intersex community, and I'm hoping to find friends here in Texas. I live out side the tiny town of Loving, located where Rt 16 and Rt 114 cross, about 100 miles West of Fort Worth and about 50 miles South of Wichita Falls. I live alone on my 67 acre ranch where in have a large house and 7 Horses and 8 Parrots. I do enjoy country life but I try to get into the DFW metroplex often.
My career spans 28 years in electronics and computer engineering and at present I'm working for a cousin's startup company doing product design and development. I'm fortunate right now to be able to do all this work from my home.
So, if anyone has any questions or feels that I left anything out, please ask. If it turns or to be too personal, well, Hmmm, I'll just have to answer anyway. ;-) It's my opinion that the only dumb questions are the ones which are never asked.
Byeeee for now and for those interested, here's my photo taken when I was out with friends this past March:
http://www.wf.net/~waelder/SJW.jpg
Love,
I knew about this site but Beach told me about the forums and recommended this as a way to become socially active in the intersex community.
I'm a practical femme lesbian intersexed woman, though I originally thought I was a born male and a transsexual until I went with a friend to Sue Ellen's in Dallas. The weather was warm, so I dressed comfortably, a T-shirt, shorts, and sandles. I did not bother with any makeup. Well, I was clocked as a biologic woman and one gal told my friend that I have no chance to ever pass as a dude. She actually thought I was a failing transman and she gave my friend a list a mile long of reasons why I better quit taking testosterone and go back to living the woman that I was born to be. My friend said that I just did not dress femme enough that day.
More recently, the same friend helped me realize that I'm intersexed. She thought that I knew and was just using the story of being a transsexual as a cover. Well, I have been able to confirm various aspects of my young childhood to realize that I did receive surgery and was made to look male. My friend suspects that I'm 47-XXY and my doctor agrees that I need to have the chromosomal analysis done. I just have to find a way to save for that. I'll be visiting my father next week and I'm planning on getting a chance to talk with him in detail about what transpired.
Transition wise, I was diagnosed with GID have been granted a legal change of name and gender. Yup, my Texas drivers license actually says that I flunked sex. ;-) I have been living full time presenting as a female and have been on female HRT since 2001. I still need to have SRS, but my goal is to have that before the end of the year.
I have been married for 17 going on 18 years, but we are now separated, and we will be getting a divorce. My wife is having a lot of difficulty with my transition and she is more interested in the neighbors opinions and fears of being labeled a lesbian instead of taking the time to understand what was done to me or what I need to put my life where it should to be.
I have gotten socially active in the lesbian community, I want to do the same in the intersex community, and I'm hoping to find friends here in Texas. I live out side the tiny town of Loving, located where Rt 16 and Rt 114 cross, about 100 miles West of Fort Worth and about 50 miles South of Wichita Falls. I live alone on my 67 acre ranch where in have a large house and 7 Horses and 8 Parrots. I do enjoy country life but I try to get into the DFW metroplex often.
My career spans 28 years in electronics and computer engineering and at present I'm working for a cousin's startup company doing product design and development. I'm fortunate right now to be able to do all this work from my home.
So, if anyone has any questions or feels that I left anything out, please ask. If it turns or to be too personal, well, Hmmm, I'll just have to answer anyway. ;-) It's my opinion that the only dumb questions are the ones which are never asked.
Byeeee for now and for those interested, here's my photo taken when I was out with friends this past March:
http://www.wf.net/~waelder/SJW.jpg
Love,