Maybe you should also try asking at
www.congenitaladrenalhyperplasia.org , they're very active there and I'm sure someone would reply.
If I may ask, what sort of CAH did your doctor diagnosed you with? There are a variety of particular deficiencies and severities.
Actually, I was also curious about how you never suspected a problem; because in my own life I've had a lot of weird pelvic sensations, mostly of wetness and cramping and pain. And then there's the whole impotence thing, because an XX pseudo-herm will always have that no matter how much testosterone they have or take. These things spoiled any illusions of normalcy I might have had for myself, even aside from incidents after gym class. And yet you mentioned that at one point you were married, and the both of you never noticed.
I hope these questions aren't uncomfortably close, and they aren't intended to be as confrontational as they're forced to sound. But sometimes I have trouble putting myself into other people's shoes. And the answers grant a bit of wisdom.