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Hi Dana,
I never would have lashed out against the intersexed until nearly everyone turned their back on me and gave me their silence, all because I didn't have an officially sanctioned syndrome to label myself with. Anyone who wanted to could have looked at loads of abnormal medical reports, and they shunned me for lack of a word. Words aren't realities, they're only a form of communication. I've actually had conversations with one person until they asked if I'd gotten an official diagnosis yet, and then they literally stopped talking to me. With all the medical evidence I've collected, my lack of a diagnosis wasn't from lack of a condition to find, it's been due to highly prejudiced doctors who don't want to analyze.
I'm still a human being with feelings, and I'm sure these same intersexed folks manage to be sociable even with "normal" people, so even if someone didn't believe I had anything wrong, how did I get to be the untouchable?
Likewise, I've known for a while that the AIS commuity is paranoid, and it hasn't been a problem for me, I always figured it was their right. Afterall, they wouldn't want someone like me hanging around. But then in the last year or so, I've heard tales of real documented CAIS women being ostracized for reasons that seem trite and shallow, and I just have to shake my head.
The transsexuals? They've treated me at least as badly. Because they want everyone to be their way, and have no tolerance or respect for human variation that violates their ideology of "emotional gender first", or their mantra of "repressed inner femininity". Some say they do, but it's all words, when it comes down to things they really don't. They don't understand the experiences of someone who was physically/socially prevented from living the normal lives they are forsaking. I was openly laughed at and insulted, in public, by those people. And slandered behind my back. All by a bunch of people who without exception were entangled with spouses and children, and who tended to not have enough guts to reach out and take the lives they said they wanted.
DSD? It sounds a little creepy to me, now. But like a twisted version of that old song by the Who, "meet the new word, same as the old word ..." I think the people who are most enthusiatic about the changeover are fooling themselves, but that's just my temporary opinion. I've had a problem with one of the DSD proponents here, but that dispute is only personal.
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