[Melisma]

I'm in a sort-of similar position. I found out about my Swyer's almost two years ago, but I haven't told my mother. I'm not sure whether or not I really need to, except that I feel bad keeping secrets from her. The thing is, I know she'll be wonderful about it, but I'm also fairly sure she'll feel guilty about it somehow, like it's her fault, or feel sorry for me. She still gets misty-eyed whenever there's a news report about the effects of smoking on a fetus because smoked through both pregnancies and both of us have asthma.