Yes Diane, I think that I feel in love with a real person. The news I found out did not lesson the love I feel for her. To boil this down to its basic tenants, someone I care about hid something from me, something I have no experience with, something that is strange and alien to me. In the course of less then a week, I need to gain enough wisdom about it, understand it, understand why it was hidden, what it means to her and me, and all those things that are inherent to your experience. My first reaction was not to dump her, it was to spend four hours on the phone, in soft tones with the person I love essentially coming out of the closet with me and telling me all about herself. My second thing was the next day to tell her that I need to look at this, I need to be alone and with my men’s team to gain some wisdom and understanding, and that I will get to her in a few days, I then said I do love you.
I did not dismiss her as some sexual freak, I did not approach this with biases, I did not approach this as a sexual orientation issue, or even a medical issue, I approached it with a naive need to understand it. You folks are way out of line to call this a poor Jon sob story, it is none of that.
I have learned enough in the last few days about this to say that it is not likely at all I will be moving on from this women. I am going to stay with her.
I have also learned enough to say that I am very disappointed in your responses. Whom else I am to ask then the people whom truly know the road?
I think all the stories I read here about relationships had a very sad tone to them. But hey, no one is coming to your rescue, you are stigmatized and only you can tell us, who do not understand, what the truth is. One really needs to develop a sense of empathy for the people that do not understand, if they are ever going to have any success of helping someone gain understanding.
I understand now what this is, and I will do my Intersex partner honorably and justly, and likely be in love till the day I die. But really good luck with the rest of society.
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