[Kailana]

when the scans were performed were you present?
I am asking because many parents arent told everything. Did they show you what was inside? Before you give consent to do surgery i would make sure you see what is there. Because it is possible though extremely rare that your child could have female structures internally. Before you make any permanent decisions you should see for yourself if there is any other structures present.
If you read any other posts, please read my post in the surgery section. My last surgery July 14-15 2002, was performed after my last overdose. No one asked me, I didn't give consent for it. And too this date no one at the hospital will even acknowledge what they did to me. But i have MRI scans from 2004 that now look a great deal different then what or how i was before.
As an intersexed person, with some horrendous experiences, nothing troubles me more then knowing Doctors chose to force surgery on me. Particularly as i never would of allowed that to be done to me. The whole thing about my depression, suicide attempts comes from a deep rooted knowledge that i am not nor will ever be a man. That may sound a little confusing as i have stated i am both male/female true hermaphrodyte. I see a big difference between genders of male and female. You could consider me intersexed, hermaphrodyte, even transsexual, they all apply. But please dont call me a man. That is the one thing that bothers me most. I am not, nor will i accept what Dr's thought was best. I am fighting for acknowledgement, acceptance, and really just for the right to be me.

Many intersexed people are advising parents to wait surgical assignments, because of there experiences with sugeries as well. Many of us werent given a choice, Some like me are even jealous of those who were fortunate enough to be allowed to chose as teens, with there families support. A lot of us aren't, werent so lucky. Instead we are fighting for our rights as human beings, we telling doctors to stop treating us as freaks of nature. We are urging the medical community to be open and honest with us, and with all our years of trying, searching, asking, begging for answers, very few of us can get our medical records(that havent been edited), dates of surgeries, and some like me, even our families turn away from us.

i apologies for causing any grief, anger, or thoughts of what you are doing is wrong. I am just one of many, who doesnt agree with genital reconstruction on intersexed children. Or more correctlystated, surgeries that make it even more difficult to correct later down the road, should a child/person not agree with the choices made without there knowledge. If you do chose to allow surgery, make sure as little is done as possible. Talk to the surgeons, let them know, that you are aware that some IS people grow up to not accept the surgeries forced on them and reassign later. And please keep all of your childs medical records. Because those may be of more importance than what you could possible imagine. They provide a detailed record of what was done, and for someone constantly questioning why there anatomy looks the way it does, it can clear up many questions and provide answers that you as a parent will find hard to remember.

I really hope something i wrote provides some guidance. Maybe a word of caution or something. And please respond to anything i say. it is appreciated. And may provide guidance for other parents out there who arent sure what to do either.

Sorry if this sounded mean. I didn't mean for it to do so, I am very happy to meet you LuckyMom, and am happy to see you introduce you and your family. I hope this wont cause distress, i am sure it will, but please speak about it. Nothing we do as people is without its downfalls. We needs parents to speak there minds. We need people to understand what it is like for a parent as well to struggle with choices Dr's say is best for there kids. Every little bit of information is helpfull to so many others.

All my love and apologies.