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Hi, Peter
You are the only other intersex person I have ever encountered, and I'm amazed at some of the similarities between us. I had two eurethra surgeries when I was small. One was to create or enlarge the opening, because I think I peed southward or something like that, and the other was to stretch it. I didn't have a phalloplasty of any kind. While taking hormones, my penis actually grew to a normal size, my voice changed and today I have a very slight beard (don't have to use shaving cream when I shave, however). As I mentioned before, my breasts were removed in a very botched surgery. After all of that, however, I still feel like the same person I used to be with a female body and a penis. I guess is my secret identity, and who I really am inside.
The concept of transsexuality is interesting. I was not happy with my full female attributes, so I changed it. I don't feel fully like a man now, however, but more like a person who changed genders and is struggling to live up to it. I think that's different from being a transsexual. On the other hand, maybe that is a transsexual quality of my brain, too.
I don't know how I ended up with so many women friends, except that I'm a "safe" male to be with. I don't have a problem with straight men, but I find it difficult to relate to them sometimes. I'm actually pretty much a loaner most of the time. I have an elderly friend who couldn't afford to live alone in retirement, so we pooled our funds and bought a place in a retirement community, although I'm technically not old enough to live here yet. I've known him 30 years. He's gay and he thinks I'm a strange gay person who has never had sex with anyone in ther three decades that he's known me. I've never told him about being an intersex person. Since we do not have a sexual relationship, I don't know if I ever will (I wouldn't want to give the old guy a heart attack!).
Orgasms are not common for me, but I am capable of having them either as ejaculatory (male?) or spasmotic (female?), but rarely both simultaneously. I don't have much of a sex drive.
Mike
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