Parents should better not trust their doctor?

[mohnblume]

Once I was reading that 30% of the operated intersexuals make suicide. To be honest, I was at that point too ...

[Dianne]

Originally Posted by mohnblume

... I was at that point too ...

As was I. It was not until I took charge of my own care that I was able to feel good about my life.

[Kailana]

ive read as well that amongst all categories of people, its the IS individual with the highest percentage of attempts, and successfull suicides, next comes transsexuals, then black males and on down the list. I do believe that the data is kinda being reported that black teenage males though are the highest candidates? for suicides. We are once again being forgotten/ not talked about. And yah i read roughly at around 30% but i wonder where this number comes from, as we all know most of us are not being followed. It makes me wonder if its just a wild guess?

[Onnineko]

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Well I would not blame the Intersexed person that committed suicide because they couldn't live with the trauma of trying to be something they are not.

And if the statute of limitations didn't restrict my ability to sue Doctors for the trauma caused, I would certainly encourage that by all so afflicted Intersex people.

[Kailana]

And its Great to see you Onnineko.

I wouldn't blame an intersexed person either for attempting suicide, and feeling totally ashamed when they found out. I was that way as well, two suicide attempts, 5 hospitalizations and those all because of the care i got, the cruel remarks i received, the total lack of understanding i was getting from the Doctors locally. And yes i wasn't any better when they chose surgery again in 2002, at 31 years, 9 months of age without my consent. So i kinda understand just how bad some people can get treated. And just how devastating it can be trying to get more information and help understanding what everything means. Or just the daily trauma of constantly judging yourself as a man or a woman, as a true hermaphrodite, and having a very very hard time comming to some form of terms, at the time, suicide seemed the only real alternative. The constant lack of caring, the pushing of antidepressants and antipsychotic meds, only broke my will. That and the depression of well just feeling so very much alone, that no one cares, is hard enough on a person when they are stable, add in a little doubt, alot of bitterness and bad things happen. Also I really want to say that there are many people who dont understand suicide at all. They have no understanding that when a person is suicidal, all normal thought patterns about self preservation go right out the window. And I deffineately understand what that means.

Anyone, i mean everyone reading this should know that there is help, and its not always in the form of a antidepressant. Should anyone be going through, or having thoughts of suicide, please talk to someone a friend, a relative, a teacher, a coworker, anyone that you have had some bond of friendship, and yes even a psychiatrist, counsellor, social worker, or doctor can help. For anyone think that its the only solution, well, just to let you know, its not, there is help, you just need to try, push yourself a little, i mean your gonna have to push yourself alittle, and please dont feel ashamed. There are people specifically trained to help, even some not so well trained, that can help. While being IS can be quite devastating, finding out your IS can be devastating, there are plenty of us, and plenty of people who love us, and we are deffinately not the only people to have suicidal thoughts. Some time may pass before you, I, come to terms with what we are, nothing in life is easy, but it is deffinately worth trying/finding your happiness.

[apple]

Originally Posted by Onnineko

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Well I would not blame the Intersexed person that committed suicide because they couldn't live with the trauma of trying to be something they are not.

If the trauma really is, as you say, caused by "trying to be something they are not", and I think you are right about that, then instead of committing suicide just cease trying to be something you are not.

The media driven, ideal of man and woman, is purely fictional. It is a lie, and "normal" sex and gender is an unattainable goal. As long as you actually believe however, the media sex and gender lie, then of course you will be miserable. So stop doing that. It really is that simple.

If you instead merely continue to bemoan your fate, cursing the darkness of sex and gender expectations, you will forever chase your tails and be unhappy, and no amount of commiseration and other forms of so called "support" will change that.