Hello, and by way of FULL DISCLOSURE, I am the 39 year old father of a two year old who was diagnosed at age 3 days with MRKH. My wife and I continue to evaluate (and I say that guardedly since we have so little information) our daughter's condition, options and the journey she faces in life. I made a post on the MRKH Forum, then discovered the Parenting Forum.

I am hoping to find others (parents, MRKHers, anyone with a POV) who can offer perspective, advice, etc. on how my wife and I can be most supportive of my daughter. I realize that no matter what my wife and I do, MRKH will change our daughter's self-perspective and psyche. How can we best guide her on this journey and make it constructive, or at least not destructive?

I apologize if anyone considers my presence and posting on this Board to be invasive.

You are more than welcome here. Most of our members would have had very differents lives if their parents had a place like this to go to. Your daughter is very lucky to have you seeking out answers before she even realizes what the questions are.

Time is on your side, as the 'tough' questions she will ask you are still years away. Knowledge about MRKH will be growing as she is playing in the sandbox. Patient advocates and grown ups will be available to help your daughter along. Most importantly: she won't ever feel like she's the only one in the world with a body like hers.

Teach her that the world is full of many choices including whether or not to become a parent. Some people want children, but others don't. Some people are able to have children 'the old fashioned way':) , but others need medical science to help them. Still others raise children that didn't have parents of their own. Tell her of endless possibilities, not limitations.

Your acceptance of her, your honest answers, your desire to help her on her journey... these will make for a happy, self confident person.

Good luck!
Janet

I must agree with Janet entirely. I think many of us would have had it different if there was something like this site back when we were young. And so you know, anyone with a genuine desire to learn about the various intersexual conditions (sorry, I couldn't think of a better word) is welcome here.
I wish the best for you and your family.

Andi

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