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Originally Posted by Atusa
Hello,
I am currently in a serious relationship with a man. This September will be 3 years we have known each other. We are highly compatible and love each other very much.
Atusa
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Good morning Atusa,
The part that I quoted should be enough to answer the question of marriage. Although your description of things can only allow me to speculate, so take what I say with a grain of salt…I am no expert but I have had similar experiences and questions in the past.
On the first note, I would say perhaps your boyfriend is reluctant to discuss things with you because he wants you to see the man that he is and not what his body and past life forced him into. Perhaps this has some merit because it sounds like you are having concerns. He may not realize that you need this information to give the subject a degree of closure. All I can suggest is in any relationship the more open the communication the better.
I see that you already have concerns about your own sexuality based upon your boyfriends’ condition. This could be another reason he is not forth coming with information with you. If he knows he is a man and you see him as a man than what’s the problem? Just because the body did not develop in a specific direction has little to do with a person’s true sex. So just because your boyfriend was born with parts of both, would not automatically make you bisexual, but I would say that it would make you a caring and loving person to accept him as he is.
If you intent to spend you life with this person and want to know about things to watch out for and pitfalls that you can get caught up in….well ….yes there are many. But the thing is you will have these issues with any person that you enter a relationship with. Love him for the person that he is, take the good with the bad, and deal with problems as they come along.
Therapy, some people claim to have gained help from therapy, I have never experienced the process, so that would be up to you and your boyfriend. I think you should start with good communication between the two of you.
Good luck to you both.
Prince….ss?