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Coming Out
Hi Kara,
I'm happily partnered in a closed relationship for the past year but in the past I was in an open relationship. I always come out right away, before the first date or encounter.
I figure that the first thing anyone usually knows about us is our sex. In our case it's not something people can see until our clothes are off. I don't want anyone to start to imagine me naked and then have to "relearn" what I actually have. Of course, if being intersexed doesn't show on your body it might be better to talk about it a little later, but certainly before you get intimate.
Doing this up front also spares me from beginning to get attached only to learn that the guy I'm meeting won't be attracted to me once we get sexual. It really helps you locate compatible people more efficiently.
When I met my partner we were at a Gay Camp on a nudist weekend and were both naked when we met. That was perfect, because nothing was left to the imagination!
Jim
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