nameste beta/bete
rahul, can you tell me where in India you are, what religion you are and also how old you are. You are obviously well educated, as your english is very good.
You can post me privately if you wish with these details. there are reasons I ask for this information, as an Indian you will have an understanding why.
yes, India is a very difficult place to be if one is intersex, gay, queer, or transgendered in any way.
However there are little oasis, but like much in India, it is a hidden network that is accessed only with time and nerve and courage.
I'm Jims friend, yann.. and it was actually only 7 years that lived in India, but I have ongoing contacts and family there so it has now grown to 9 years I have been involved within your culture.
I have been back in the west for 2 years now but I visit my family as often as I can. I will be back in India for 3 to 4 months this summer to stay with my family.
I was adopted into a sikh family living in Uttaranchal on the terai, between rampur and katkodam. my new mother introduced me to the local hijra and through my travel business I also became very friendly with a young raijput man who would identify totally with your words. he is not IS, but thinks of himself as a woman. because of your culture he has had to tread a careful path in fulfilling family duty and being true to him/herself.
it could be that s/he could be a valuable ally for you in your discovery of yourself.
I am also open to meeting up with you if this would interest you and we could manage to be in the same place.
If you are down south I know that there are some good people in kerala as well. I dont have their information with me, but will have to wait until I get to my Indian computer before I can see if power surges have left me the information.
But, for the moment, take heart. You have made a brave step and now you will find that slowly pieces will fall into place.
In some ways you are lucky. India has changed from when i first went to live there. I arrived the same weekend as the RSS were rioting about the movie "fire" being shown in Delhi (9
. I went back last september to tell my family of my decision to trans from female to male. After I left to return to NZ to keep saving for my adopted daughters dowries, I recieved a letter from my didi telling me that the first cases of transwomen (MtF) were starting to become public in the papers.. I watched the beginnings of the gay movement and now you, especially, as a society defined male, will if you choose, be able to find company with other like you, who self define as female and find acceptance within your society. Maybe not all, but enough of it for you to keep hope alive.
write to me offline bete, or here as well.
shalam
yann