[short311fan]

while i do think being honest and up-front is always the best policy, i also think you have to go with what works for you, though i have no room to talk since my wife and i have been together for nearly 8 years and married for nearly 5, and i'm just now telling her about all this..... her first response, of course, was "well, whatever's wrong, the doctors can fix it and you'll be alright!"..... noooo, dear, this isn't something you just "fix", it's something we gotta deal with from here on out..... "well, at least it's just hormone problems, it's not like you can have 2 sets of sex organs or anything."..... umm, well, actually, yeah, you can, to varying degrees, they just don't know about me yet..... "well, can't they just remove them and you'll be ok?"..... not necessarily..... i will say this much, at least she's attempting to understand it, and a couple nights ago we sat down and i told her all about it and all the possible outcomes, and she's actually being cool about it, which is far from what i expected, which was more along the lines of a large cast-iron skillet being hurled towards my cranium! lol but i digress, just be honest, it always works better in the long run, i'd say start with "ya know, i really like you, and to be honest, i think i'm falling for you, but before we go any further, i have to tell you something about me, and i really hope you understand it, because i really care for you and i want this to work, but if it's going to, i have to be honest"..... something along those lines.....

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