[Kailana]

Misae, be very careful, from a perspective of someone who regardless of the cause for there IS condition, who's family chose to keep it all secret, I grew into a person who has no trust with family. I dont trust doctors either. I have felt betrayed, deceived, like i've been stabbed repeatedly in the back over and over. Your sister needs to know.

Be Extremely carefull about how you tell her, why you are telling her, and talk to your family first.

From history the advice from Dr's to keep it secret is a long passed down load of crap. It is one of the main reasons we feel so out of it.

a question: How are we to feel accepted if everyone who is supposed to love and care for us, lies to us? How are we suppose to grow and develope, find our way in the world, with all of the people who are suppose to care for us, keep a secret like this from us, when it is us who needs to know most. It isnt easy hearing parents, relatives talk about you, or catach small bits and pieces of information that are all incomplete, or when you(I) ask for answers that are desperately needed, have them all denied to you(me).

knowledge, sharing, caring and what not, it is what we need to know, the information being withheld is extremely critical to finding who we are, and in this case what we are is critically important in finding out who we are.

as for adive from Dr.s its terribly outdated. Old standards used since IS conditions first started be recognized, and surgically dealt with by Dr.s. Its things passed down from the 50-60's. And in my opinion just made and is making my life hell.

If you care for her, let her know you love her, if she needs help then help her, and in some cases him. Because all the stupid medical so called advice, because he has this hes a she, or because she has this cond, and would be best as a he, is complete nonesense. Only your sister knows what is best for her/him. And is she doesnt understand what she is/has, her life is only going to be that much harder. She needs to know. She needs supportive family and friends around her when she finds out. If she is having problems all ready, and you apparently are aware of this allready, then it is time for her to know.

just make sure your there, cause this information isnt going to be taken lightly. Watch her, spend time with her, be supportive if she decides that "her" isnt right, and decides to change pronouns or whatever, be there for your sister. Tell your parents the same thing, she will need support, counselling, people to talk too.

And you can always send her this way as well, to people who are much like her, people who understand what its like, being different.

please take care, and watch out for your sister.
sharing your knowledge will hurt, hurt hard, but she needs to know.