[miriam]

It's obvious that some people think that coping with AIS is easier than coping with other conditions:

Originally Posted by Kailana

With CAIS, you basically have a child that looks like a girl. If there arent any other noticable problems a girl you will be. Perhaps CAIS is a little easier for some to accept a xy individual as a girl, compared to some of the other conditions due to the fact that you develope as woman. For many of us though, we arent so fortunate.

Originally Posted by prince....ss?

Is infertility your biggest gripe? Cool I wish I were so lucky. At least with knowledge of your condition you eventually were allowed to make educated decisions about your health. I was not allowed that luxury.

I would like to ask those people who think that I've said that infertility is the biggest problem with AIS to re-read my posts again. And please pay some extra attention to the words I've emphasized in bold & blue:

Sometimes it may look like it is better to be born with AIS. A girly-female body, tall, good looking, no body odor, no acne, no pubic hair, never have to shave your legs or your armpits, never menstruation problems. Hey, it's great to be born with AIS - the only caveat is that women with AIS are infertile.

But that just the theory. Even in reality I seem to be very successful. I've been a model, I'm smart, I have a wonderful partner, I'm the mother of two girls, I have great friends, I'm a successful business woman, I'm rather rich, I live in a single-detached home, I know how to drive a stick shift, I travel a lot, I have great friends. The only problem is that I happen to have AIS. I don't want to whine about it. But AIS sucks.

When you write "my family and doctors LIED to me for 43 years never telling me the truth about my condition" I hear what you are saying. Secrecy and shame were the main ingredients of the treatment for AIS.

The text "the only caveat is that women with AIS are infertile." is part of the paragraph that describes how it may look to people who don't have AIS. It is not how I feel about being born with AIS.

My problem with AIS is that my family and doctors lied to me. The lied to me just like they did to Prince....ss and to so many other people with an intersex condition.

There also seems to be misunderstanding about the reason why I don't like the half jack, half jill video:

Originally Posted by Kailana

But, the thing about this vidoe clip is about early gender reassignment/construction to force a gender with the use of surgery. You as a CAIS, Like most CAIS, arent usually subject too that attrocity as an infant. You are furtunate enough to look like, develope as woman. For many of us, we are not so fortunate. Your biggest complaint that you mentioned is being Infertile, Not to belittle you any, but many of us are infertile. Some of us are infertile as a direct result of surgeries forced on us. That is part of that video clip.

Originally Posted by prince....ss?

Perhaps Miriam you would feel differently about the video if you had more to link you to the video then just using the word intersex. I can see by your statement that you have NO compassion for freaks like me. People that were not born a girl or a boy but something different.

I know that it is great to see a video that gives a voice to your own feelings. I know how it feels when you see a video that makes you say "Hey, that's about me!" But this doesn't mean that I'm not allowed to have an opinion about a video clip like Half Jack, Half Jill if I don't recognize myself in the story line of the video.

Let me make this very clear: except for the part where the maker of the video says that intersex equals ambiguous genitalia, I don't have a problem with the message in the video. It's the way the message is presented. As I said before, this video will not stop parents from asking for surgery. But it will most definitely help them to ask for prenatal testing and abortion.


Groeten, Miriam