Creating Every(wo)man

[Priestess]

Suppose that someone were writing a fiction with the intent of sneaking some subtle perspective about intersex issues into an otherwise interesting plotline, and the story isn't intended to solely revolve around intersex. Lord knows there's a lot of normal readers who could probably use some enlightenment.

If you were trying to create an intersexed every(wo)man ...

Aside from obvious things like infant surgeries and secrecy being bad, what are some other concerns that are universal enough to go beyond particular conditions?

Also, for those conditions where you might concievably get as far as your teen years without finding out something is wrong, like AIS or XXY or others, what are the worst personal/emotional reactions that have actually happened from discovering the truth?