Thinking of Genital Correction Surgery. . .

[panduwinata]

I just joined so I don't know all the rules yet. . . I hope I don't make a faux pas -- I'm an Indonesian PAIS with a micropenis which is, strangely enough, reversible (enabling me to, er, "accomodate" an erect male member when I'm reversed).
Okay. . . Have I violated any censorship laws yet?
I hope not. This is all medical, you see.
Anyway. . . I'm currently looking for available surgical correction for my genitals. Does anyone have any information on this, especially in Asia? Thanks!

[Kailana]

Im not really sure, but aren't the Dr's in Thailand doing some pretty good work. am familiar with several people i know going to Thailand, Cheaper, really good results. Im in the USA, small community, And still i know several have Chosen Thailand over the US, as its alot cheaper, and the waiting time for appointments were alot sooner. I really havent checked into any information recently, but i believe the Thai surgeons have alot less issues when it comes to timelines. Or it could just be that American dr's at least the ones ive read about aren't as accepting of correcting things, or maybe better said fixing the gender assignments that a previous surgeon has allready worked on. Then again i could be wrong, most of my information is actually several years old, I hope to have GRS thats Genital Reconstructive Surgery, for us IS people, rather then SRS< Sexual Reconstructive Surgery whats usually reffered to for a Transsexual person. <--- those are just words/labels by the way, often theres really not much difference between one or the other.

[Wyn]

about what you describe as 'reversing'... but, I do know that there have been cases where the person with a micropenis actually had a vagina below the penis... and didn't know it until they were examined by several doctors.

It would certainly be possible (IMO probable) that this is your situation.

And Kailana makes a good point about the number of surgeries being performed on foreigners - particularly americans - in Thailand. Any perusal of SRS online will give you their names and will even have some photos of their reconstructions. I know of a few sites, but I'll have to get the addresses from another logon I have.

As for 'corrective' surgery - I've just recieved the 'OK' from my insurance co to correct my situation!! Nov. 6 is my 'big day'... this has been a LONG TIME in coming.

About the only thing I can say is that, as long as the condition is acknowledged by a knowledgable doctor, there shouldn't be TOO much of a problem - but, yes, there are serious prejudices among some doctors - of any nationality. Fortunately, my endo is Wonderful, and has done the homework in getting the names of those docs that could be of the most assistance.

If what I suspect about your own situation is true, there should be even Less of a problem - except possibly that of how to pay for it. I have no knowledge of the insurance situation in your country, but I certainly hope for a quick and acceptable resolution for you. You are so young, and have a lifetime to live life as you see fit.

I wish you all the best in this!

[panduwinata]

That's a wonderful site (you sent me through email), wyn! thank you, it really helped.
As for a gynaecologist-- Well, believe it or not, my own father is one. But we are not very close, and rarely discuss my intersexuality. Both my parents still treat me as a male, ignoring the fact of my voice and body. My mother, particularly, is not very supportive, unfortunately, and actually suspects I'm taking hormones! (I mean, come on, from the age of 14? That's when my breasts started growing.)
But I'll follow your advice. About the penile reversal thing, I mean. That sounds interesting that I could actually have a vagina under there. I'll check with an OBGYN soon.

Another thing. . .
I'm really confused about my sexuality, though. I don't feel male at all, yet I am attracted to women more than I am attracted to men. I had twice as many former girlfriends than I have former boyfriends. . .
I wonder why? I mean-- It's hard enough being intersexed without being a lesbian. . . Especially in my country!

[JOS]

Sorry if it sounds a bit flippant but it sounds like you must have a really cool body. It seems like you can assume a male or a female look depending on how you're currently feeling.

I'm kind of jealous of that cos I've always worried that people think I look different to the way I pecieve myself... that I don't look very female when I'm wearing girly clothes but I don't look like a man when I'm wearing bloke clothes.

You can choose either rather than looking like neither. That could be the best of both worlds, at least superficially. I guess it's not as simple as that emotionally though. It must be really hard for those who have had surgery forced upon them.

It's funny you saying about being an intersexed lesbian because when I first found out I was CAIS I couldn't help feeling I must therefore be gay based on my genes. I guess it just goes to show that nothing is straight forward. You have to be true to yourself in the end but as long as you're not harming someone else and you're staying safe, why not stay as you are? Sounds like you're managing to have fun?

I'm sorry your parents don't seem to see it that way at the moment, I guess they're just worried about all the possible outcomes for your life. I'm sure they care though.... my Mum has said she feels to blame for my intersex condition, that she gave me the wrong genes. What can I say to that? I take that to mean that she feels ashamed of me... and guilty... like I'm broken and it was her that did it. Rather than I'm fine the way I am and she's pleased with me!! see what I mean?

Anyway, sorry, I haven't been of much assistance on the surgery front, sorry.

[noname]

have a ultra sound to see if there is a covered vagina and overies as for the reduction if it is smaller than yur first thumb link LEAVE it alone or yu will later loose all sex drive!!!

[debbiede]

Originally Posted by noname

have a ultra sound to see if there is a covered vagina and overies as for the reduction if it is smaller than yur first thumb link LEAVE it alone or yu will later loose all sex drive!!!

I just got a cat scan to see if a uterus is hiding in me and I hope it is clear enough to tell as I have periods and no vagina and the dam cramping is a bitch. I have to wait till next month to see it as they did a DNA test to see what the chromosomes are too. Be careful with what is going on I see to many doctors who just want to look inside you to satisfy there curiosity.