Jim
has chosen to share some of his writings with visitors to Bodies
Like Ours. We've included some of what Jim told us about himself as an
introduction. Links to the essays
are below. They are reprinted here with Jim's permission.
A short bio of Jim, in his
own words:
I'm XX - progestin exposure with
partially masculinized genitals, sterile - non-functioning uterus, normal
usable vagina recently discovered
and opened.
I've only known all these details for 2 years and I'm 46! I was originally
assigned as female, was raised as male after so identifying as a toddler. I've
been on HRT since I was 13 but have had NO surgery. I left my life in the gay
community to marry a woman believing that it would prove I was a "real" man.
When I got past that bull
crap I came back out as gay. I consider myself gay
with some bi leanings. I have an adopted son, have been with my partner for
9 years and am a step parent to his daughter. I have a very open and public
life as a gay intersexed man. We have an open relationship and I have a very
active and varied sex life.
Being intersexed is not
a curse. I don't live
a miserable life. There are lots of us out here and the internet is allowing
us to finally locate each other. Lies, secrecy and shame are on their way
out
the door. It's not evil, freakish, disgusting or threatening. When we come
out it really isn't like Frankenstein's monster and the villagers. There
are plenty
of us
whose lives bear witness to this. We are thankful we were never mutilated.
We don't want to be mutilated. We love ourselves as intersexed men or women
and others love us too. We have healthy sex lives, healthy careers, make
good parents. We are not worse off. We're better off. We can't be dismissed.
We
are a living rebuttal.